The Science of Happiness — Navigating the Uncontrollable
Introduction
In an earlier article, we gave practical, easy-to-do advice, based on the science of mental health, on why thinking about what is outside your control can help you become happier.
In this article, we review what others have said about this approach.
Understanding and Managing Life’s External Forces
In our quest for happiness, we often encounter a formidable obstacle: the realisation that many aspects of our lives are beyond our direct control.
This article looks at the intricate relationship between our well-being and the external factors that influence it, exploring why acknowledging and reflecting on these uncontrollable elements is useful and essential in our pursuit of happiness.
The feeling of unhappiness stemming from factors outside our control is not a new phenomenon. Philosophers and thinkers throughout history have grappled with this reality.
The Stoics
The Stoics, for instance, led by figures like Epictetus and Seneca, emphasised the importance of distinguishing between what we can control and what we cannot. Their teachings suggest that peace of mind comes from focusing our efforts only on the former.
Positive Psychology
This ancient wisdom is echoed in modern psychology, notably in the work of Dr. Martin Seligman, the father of Positive Psychology, who emphasises the role of perceived control in his theory of learned helplessness. Seligman’s research illustrates how a lack of control can lead to feelings of helplessness and depression, impacting our overall happiness.
Circle of Influence
Moreover, the ‘Circle of Influence’ concept introduced by Stephen R. Covey in his seminal work, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People,” further explores this idea. Covey argues that focusing on concerns outside our control drains our energy and diminishes our power, whereas focusing on what we can influence expands our control and effectiveness.
The Paradoxical Nature of Control
But why is it beneficial to reflect on things outside our control? The answer lies in the paradoxical nature of control itself. By recognising and accepting the limits of our control, we can redirect our efforts towards areas where we can make a real impact. This shift conserves our mental energy and fosters a sense of empowerment.
CBT
Research in the field of cognitive-behavioural therapy, particularly the work of Dr Aaron T. Beck, shows that understanding our cognitive distortions about control can lead to more rational and effective ways of thinking and behaving.
Emotional Intelligence
Furthermore, the act of reflection itself is a tool for emotional regulation, as posited by Daniel Goleman in his exploration of emotional intelligence. By reflecting on the uncontrollable, we engage in a process of cognitive reappraisal, which allows us to adjust our emotional responses to these external factors, thereby reducing their impact on our happiness.
More on the science of happiness
The articles in this below Medium list will explore these concepts in greater depth, examining the science behind our reaction to uncontrollable events and the psychological mechanisms that can help us manage them more effectively.
Through this exploration, we aim to clarify why certain aspects of life elude our control and how this understanding can be a stepping stone to greater happiness and fulfilment.
